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How Do I Sexy?
How Do I Sexy?

How Do I Sexy?

A Guide for Trans and Nonbinary Queers

By Nillin Lore, Foreword by Sophie Labelle



264 Pages, 5.25 x 8

Formats: Trade Paper, EPUB

Trade Paper, $19.95 (US $19.95) (CA $26.95)

Publication Date: August 2024

ISBN 9781990869532

Rights: WOR

Thornapple Press (Aug 2024)


eBook Editions Available

Will it work on my eReader?
Not Yet Published. Estimated release date: August 2024


What even is “sexy,” and how do you do it? A tough question for trans and nonbinary queers struggling to find their sexual selves in a landscape rife with misogynistic, transphobic and homophobic ideals and expectations. In How Do I Sexy? Mx. Nillin Lore provides affirming and helpful direction based on over a decade of their own personal and professional experience as an educator, advocate, support worker and award-winning sex blogger. 

You’re invited to do some deep introspection, find a look that feels right and gain insight on sexiness from fellow trans and nonbinary queers. You’ll also find valuable tips on navigating dating sites, finding community, managing rejection with grace and engaging in sexual relationships. Principled and compassionate, Mx. Nillin Lore will help you figure out who you want to be, who you want to be with and how to make it happen—both in the streets and between the sheets.


"Nillin's work is sorely needed in a world where sex and pleasure is still seen in deeply reductive, binary ways." —Girl on the Net 

"Having a voice like Nillin's writing on this topic is both spot on and wildly beneficial!" —Kevin Patterson, M.Ed., author of Love’s Not Color Blind

"Nillin’s warmth, humor, and adventurousness are a shining light in the sex writing community." —Kate Sloan, Author of 101 Kinky Things Even You Can Do 

"Nillin's work in the sex blogging community has that magical quality of being both hot and filthy, and educating and thought-provoking." —Molly Moore, creator of Molly's Daily Kiss and author of Molly's Daily Kiss: Submission Of Truth 

Author Biography

Sophie Labelle is the French-Canadian author of Serious Trans Vibes / Assigned Male comics, which she has been drawing since 2014, and the books Wish Upon a Satellite, Ciel, Ciel in All Directions and My Dad Thinks I’m a Boy?!

Mx. Nillin Lore (they/them) is an AuDHD, trans and queer activist, advocate, and educator based in Saskatoon, Saskatchewan. They have had queer erotica stories published in a number of anthologies including Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year volumes 4–6 and The Big Book of Orgasms Volume 2. They co-authored a chapter of Trans Bodies, Trans Selves and are the editor of Heckin' Lewd: Trans and Nonbinary Erotica.