How Do I Sexy?

Overview

What even is “sexy,” and how do you do it? A tough question for trans and nonbinary queers struggling to find their sexual selves in a landscape rife with misogynistic, transphobic and homophobic ideals and expectations. In How Do I Sexy? Mx. Nillin Lore provides affirming and helpful direction based on over a decade of their own personal and professional experience as an educator, advocate, support worker and award-winning sex blogger.

You’re invited to do some deep introspection, find a look that feels right and gain insight on sexiness from fellow trans and nonbinary queers. You’ll also find valuable tips on navigating dating sites, finding community, managing rejection with grace and engaging in sexual relationships. Principled and compassionate, Mx. Nillin Lore will help you figure out who you want to be, who you want to be with and how to make it happen—both in the streets and between the sheets.

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Author Biography

Mx. Nillin Lore (they/them) is an AuDHD, trans and queer activist, advocate, and educator based in Saskatoon, Saskatchewan. They have had queer erotica stories published in a number of anthologies including Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year volumes 4–6 and The Big Book of Orgasms Volume 2. They co-authored a chapter of Trans Bodies, Trans Selves and are the editor of Heckin' Lewd: Trans and Nonbinary Erotica.

Sophie Labelle is the French-Canadian author of Serious Trans Vibes / Assigned Male comics, which she has been drawing since 2014. 

She is also the author of several children's books and novels, as well as a public speaker. She gives talks and lectures to a large array of audiences, from kindergarden groups to university students.