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Being with Others
Being with Others

Being with Others

Curses, spells and scintillations



248 Pages, 5.5 x 8.5

Formats: Trade Paper

Trade Paper, $20.00 (US $20.00) (CA $27.00)

Publication Date: June 2021

ISBN 9781913743215

Rights: US & CA

Triarchy Press Ltd (Jun 2021)

Price: $20.00


How the hidden drives and motivations of the Trimotive Brain keep us ‘in threat’, cast a spell on our lives and shape the patterns of our relationships -- and 4 Perception Practices we can use to change those patterns.Many of our significant relationships are based not on trust and respect but on an unconscious compulsion to deny our problems, flaws and fears. We see the consequences at home and at work, where we repeat the same mistakes and act out familiar patterns of behaviour with our partners, friends and colleagues in ways that leave us stressed and unhappy.In Being with Others, psychotherapist and business psychologist Nelisha Wickremasinghe explores how it is impossible to build healthy relationships when our brains and bodies are in threat. Following on from her acclaimed book Beyond Threat she unravels why so many of us are often in threat, and how we can overcome these feelings to find freedom, authenticity and forgiveness in our relationships. In Being with Others we learn how: •We are cursed by our ability to think and remember, and by the dictates of culture, family and own conflicted characters.•Unconsciously, we cast ‘spells’ – in the form of psychological defences – to try to rid ourselves of these curses. •Our most trusted spell is the belief that magical ‘Others’ – partners, children, celebrities, gurus or gods – can heal, protect and save us. •Spells don’t work… and how we can free ourselves from our curses. Being with Others shows us how to recognise our curses, cast off the spells and wake up to the scintillations of insight that can deepen our relationships. It is an invitation to reclaim our imagination, intuition and bodies from the grip of the powerful emotions of our threat brain. It is a book for all of us who want to grow richer relationships with others and our own selves.

Author Biography

Nelisha Wickremasinghe is a psychologist, entrepreneur, educator, and international leadership/organisational change consultant who has worked in the field of human development for 25 years. She has a Master's and Doctorate in organisational change. Dr. Wickremasinghe works internationally with large corporates teaching and consulting on healthy growth. She is currently an Associate Fellow at Oxford University's Saïd Business School where she facilitates sessions for business leaders on the neurobiology of personal and team resilience. She is Founding Director of The Dialogue Space.