A long-needed look at dealing with flawed fathers in constructive waysResponding to the many adults who struggle with the wounds of absent parents, bestselling author Peter M. Kalellis offers an intimate, meditative look at what it means to lose a parent—particularly a father—and offers therapeutic solutions for healing and returning to a full life. Drawing on various personal accounts—such as case studies, his work as a Greek Orthodox priest, and his own experiences as a son and father—Kalellis’s examples range from physical distance and emotional separation to total abandonment and untimely death, pursuing a healthy resolution in each case. Informing the psychology with his signature compassion and forgiveness—of both self and family—Kalellis reveals how a strong belief in the Heavenly Father can help sons and daughters understand their earthly ones, while unloading the burden of absence carried from childhood into adulthood. With each chapter enlivened by inspiring quotes from literature and Scripture, this resource concludes with a series of invitations for personal meditation and further reflection.
Reviews"[This book] is like a mirror. The reader will be amazed to see himself or herself so clearly in the pages. The author helps us to move forward and unafraid as we discover and learn the origins of our sensitive self, which is easily hurt by being ignored or rejected. By recognizing failures or weaknesses of our upbringing, we can begin to understand how we are affected behaviorally and emotionally." —Ernie Anastos, TV anchor, FOX News, New York
“A book written by a seasoned therapist who addresses one of the most powerful influences in our lives: parents. With gentleness and wisdom, Dr. Kalellis clarifies how we have been programmed in positive or negative way by close or distant parental influence and helps us to provide emotional and spiritual healing.” —Maria Sikoutris Di Iorio, MA, EdS, LPC director, The Hellenic Therapy Center
"No matter how old you are, your relationship with your parents or parental adults—whether it was wonderful or painful—has had an impact on the person you are today. Why Have You Abandoned Me? is one of those rare books with the power to re-examine and recreate your emotional life, presenting insightful and spiritual options—one that can comfortably change you life for the better." —Demetria De Lia, PhD, Academy of Clinical and Applied Psychoanalysis
Author BiographyPeter M. Kalellis is a psychotherapist; a marriage and family therapist; and the author of Five Steps to Spiritual Growth, Restoring Relationships, and Restoring Yourself. He lives in Mountainside, New Jersey.